The Best Answer is Communication

Sometimes parents will feel that their son or daughter might be taking drugs but they do not want to deal with them on the subject for fear of their child falling further away from them. Definitely, if they are using drugs they already have secrets and have dropped out of communication to the degree of those secrets. So the wrong thing for the parents to do at that stage is nothing. Wishing the problem will correct itself is a straight road to disaster.

Whenever anyone has secrets from someone they will become withdrawn thttp://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifo that degree. They will many times become critical and brooding around the person they have secrets from. By secrets I’m referring to harmful acts of some kind that they don’t want to be known. If you find someone who is always mad at you or critical, when undeserved, or goes out of their way to start a fight or maybe goes out of their way to avoid you, those are sure indicators of contra-survival secrets. The worst thing you can do is attempt to ignore them or let it slide. The most effective thing you can do, even though sometimes the hardest, is to confront the person and dig out what is going on with them.

When you are able to smoothly get that secret it is like a magic elixir. Naturally, yelling and screaming is most likely to feed the whole “critical chain” and get you nowhere. Keeping one’s cool is the best and most likely way to be successful in this regard.

In the case of the child who you suspect is taking drugs the most likely way to be successful is to ask them outright, but not in a confrontational manner. Do not mix up the words confront and confrontational. If you tackle the whole thing in an accusative manner you will have a low degree of success.

If you think yelling and accusing without being in control of your emotions will get you where you want to go you might have a contributing cause for your child being on drugs right in front of your nose, you.

Deal with your child, or anyone, in a way that you would like to be dealt with and your success rate will most likely soar. Yelling at them and trying to beat them down with fear because “that’s how my parents did it” will not help get your child off drugs, it will only widen the chasm that has previously been created.http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif

(If you have a situation where your child is on drugs and they are addicted, drug rehab may be the answer. Even then you’ll need to be able to communicate with them to get them to accept your help of sending them to rehab. Visit http://best-drugrehab.com or call 888-774-2345.)